It is as if the word ‘monogamy’ has been eradicated from our consciousness. Now, words such as polyamorous abound and people wholly dedicate themselves to multiple partners. Polyamory is the philosophical and emotional state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at a time. In layman’s terms, it is the loving and giving totally of one’s self to various partners without restriction or reservation. This lifestyle is meant to be freeing, unquestioning, and satisfying. More specifically, it is meant to answer the innate, dare I say animalistic, desire of all humans to be unrestrained and unbridled with their sexual appetite.
I cannot help but conjecture what Sigmund Freud would say about this Movement. Would he declare that humans are finally obeying the clandestine desires of their Id, or would he proclaim that we have perhaps gone too far in our quest for sexual freedom?
Is it truly our innate desires finally being heard and answered or is it a stronger pull for instant gratification on a more primal level? Followers of this movement claim that being free is what we all yearn for and they are the brave ones who have answered that call. My question is simply this: is this Free Love Movement truly the answer to our primal needs or is it, more sadly, a reaction to our deepest fear: commitment.
i'm inclined to believe that it is more of a reflection of our fear of commitment, on the whole, than it is a call to our innate desires.
ReplyDeletei don't believe that we 'love' everyone on the same plane-that it is possible to 'love' everyone equally. the free love movement has this implication. the beauty of love it in it's variety, it its scales. part of what helps an individual to grow is in the revelation of who they do and do not love, are and are not in love with, etc. where does all of this fall in that movement?
the highest form of not only compliment to pay to someone else, but also the highest form of compliment to pay to yourself (in so far as illustrating to yourself the ability to discern and prioritize things and people in your own personal space), is to admit your love and devotion to someone or something.
without this, i feel that we are void of perspective.